Posted by admin on February 11th, 2009 — Posted in Uncategorized
Carmen, a client of mine, told me at the end of one of her sessions, “I’m no longer willing to be a trash can for others’ negativity.”
“Wow!” I said. “I’m delighted to hear that! And I love that metaphor!”
Carmen is a lovely, warm, intelligent and compassionate young woman in her late 20’s. Coming from a very narcissistic mother, Carmen learned early in life to be safe from her mother’s anger by listening to her mother’s complaints. She learned to put aside her own feelings and be a mother to her mother. Of course, no matter how much she gave to her mother, it was never enough. It wasn’t until Carmen started her inner work that she discovered was narcissism was.
Early in our work together, Carmen discovered that most of her friends were just like her mother. ” I sit and listen to them complain or listen to them brag. They are never interested in me at all. If I say anything about myself, they always bring it right back to themselves. Why are so many of my friends like this?”
“Because you are willing to listen without speaking up for yourself. There are many self-absorbed people, narcissistic people with entitlement issues, who just love it when someone is willing to listen to them. As long as you are willing to listen their complaints and support their self-centeredness, they will continue to do it.”
“But if I speak up, I won’t have any friends.”
“Well, you might not have many friends for awhile, but eventually you will find new friends - people who really care about you. When you are willing to care about yourself instead of putting yourself aside, you will attract people who care about you. But this will take time. You need to be willing to lose others rather than continue to lose yourself. Do you think you are ready to do this?”
“Yes! I don’t want to be a trash can anymore. I don’t want people dumping their negativity onto me anymore.”
How do you feel inside when you allow others to dump their negativity - their complaints, their anger, their self-centeredness and sense of entitlement onto you? If you really look inside instead of pushing your own feelings into a closet, you will discover that you feel really lonely with these people. There is no mutual support, no sharing of love, no mutual giving and receiving. You give and they take, and you end up feeling drained and lonely. Yet you hang in there for fear of being alone with no friends or no partner.
If you are really honest with yourself, you will find that it’s not worth it - that you deserve better than to be a trash can for others’ negativity.
It takes faith and courage to speak up for yourself. It takes courage to say to your friend who is dumping her negativity onto you, “This doesn’t feel good. Whenever we are together all you do is complain or talk on and on about yourself. You are never interested in me at all, and this is no longer okay with me. Either this needs to change or I don’t want to spend time with you. It’s not fun for me and I just end up feeling used and drained.”
When you become willing to speak up for yourself, you will discover who really are your friends and who was just using you. Some people may say, “I’m so grateful you told me this. I didn’t realize I was doing this. I want to stop, and I would appreciate your pointing it out to me next time I do it.” Others will go into denial and say, “That’s not true. I listen to you all the time.” Others will just get angry and go away.
It’s a great way to discover who your friends really are!
Margaret Paul, Ph.D. is the best-selling author and co-author of eight books, including “Do I Have To Give Up Me To Be Loved By You?” She is the co-creator of the powerful Inner Bonding healing process. Visit her web site for a FREE Inner Bonding course: www.innerbonding.com or email her at margaret@innerbonding.com.
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Posted by admin on February 11th, 2009 — Posted in Accouterment
Few clothing accessories denote style and luxury as silk ties can. Silk Ties add a special sheen to a mans suit offering both visual interest and personal expression. Other Materials may be used in the manufacturing of ties but silk has a built in cache of expense and glamour. Silk ties benefit from the richer dyes used by silk producers and the expertise of high end designers. Fashion experts often coordinate tailored suits with appropriate silk ties for effect.
Business fashion experts say the choice of tie can reflect the wearers personality or preferred image. Silk ties offer very bold color schemes and pattern which imply power or security. These ties can also be coordinated with dress shirts to give the impression of organization and personal neatness.
Silk can be printed or woven. Woven silk tends to be thicker and you will often see a fabric weave running through it.
How to clean a Silk Tie:
1. Act immediately
2. Resist the temptation to expose a silk tie to water
3. Use a white paper towel to dab a small amount of stain remover onto the stain
4. Blot with the paper towel.
5. Have the tie professionally dry- cleaned if you haven't gotten rid of the stain.
Care and Storage:
1. Treat your ties with a specialized fabric protection spray before wearing them.
2. Avoid tie- threatening situations such as open soup bowls, ketchup or mustard packets and babies.
3. Loosely roll ties to store them, rather than hanging them. Tie rolls should be loose to avoid wrinkling, hanging ties can leave creases.
Buying the Right Tie:
To begin with you first need a quality tie made up of 100% pure silk to accomplish that job. Wear a tie which will not only grace the occasion but would also make you look as a distinguished personality in a crowd.
A crooked tie projects a sloppy look and says the same about the skills and abilities. Therefore it’s important to focus on the tie knot as well.
Conclusion:
1. Buy a quality conservative 100% pure silk tie.
2. Practice how to tie the four in hand tie knot and make sure that the tie's widest end is roughly at the upper edge of your belt.
3. Use a tie bar to attach your tie to your dress shirt.
Remember wearing a quality silk tie properly tied and fastened is probably the fastest way to improve the overall appearance and doubling your chances of leaving a favorable impression.
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Posted by admin on February 9th, 2009 — Posted in Accouterment, Education, Online Shopping Resources
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Posted by admin on February 7th, 2009 — Posted in Online Shopping Resources, World Of Leisure, World Of Sports
Frequent exercise has been scientifically verified to enhance general wellbeing, give you added energy & an extensively longer life. In this quick paced world, the masses are turning more and more to using exercise products to retain the figure of their body. Some people go to gym centres where they have access to a broad array of machinery and experienced tutors whereas others choose to look for something at home so that they won’t have to be bound to the gym hours. Find wonderful deals on weight benches on the Internet today.
Fitness training machinery by and large employ resistance to strengthen & tone the muscles. The following methods are usually employed in accomplishing this brand of friction; pulleys, cables, belts, weights, gravity in addition to wind. Friction exercise is a form of forcing your body’s muscles to contract against increasing resistance levels in a try to tone & build them.
Moreover, by escalating the repetitions & span of time used, you’re aiding your body’s metabolism which uses fat particles in your body. Presently there are scores of different forms of products that complete different goals & you would certainly do substantial well to have an idea of exactly what type of end results you are wanting before acquiring an item.
Treadmills, exercise bikes, rowing machines & stair steppers are some ideas of fitness products that give aerobic exercise. Aerobic is basically cardiovascular training which elevates your heart beat, metabolism and burns fat. These products will improve overall arm tone, fitness & energy.
Barbells, weight benches, home gyms are intended to focus on muscle tone & toughness building on particular areas of the body. These operates by increasing repetitions and the size of weights over time to toughen & tone muscle mass. Routinely you are suggested to incorporate a bite from both the aerobic & weight training parts to achieve the perfect body fitness.
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Posted by admin on February 6th, 2009 — Posted in Internet Gambling, Wagering, Betting, World Of Sports
Computer accessible betting websites are directly governed with the assistance of 3 structures. These organisations are the OSGA (the Offshore Gaming Association), the IGC (Interactive Gaming Council) and the Fidelity Trust Gaming Association (the FTGA). sports bet usa com
The OSGA is an autonomous “watch-dog” agency which supervises the current overseas sports betting industry with the mission to grant sports gamers the ability to easily identify reputable internet organizations to play games on, without worry. It aims to defend consumer’s rights, also they don’t demand any annual costs. The association are a competent not to mention objective third party agency who convey unprejudiced information, built around your evaluations, unprejudiced examination, phone conversations, inside information also imparts industry information.
The IGC are a nonprofit council. The organization has been created to furnish a forum for interested parties to talk about questions and in addition to advance communal worries in the multinational interactive sports betting trade, in an effort to establish honest and also level-headed industry protocols and procedures that enhance end user trust in internet sports gambling products and services, and in addition to aid as the industry’s public policy defender furthermore the council offers an info center.
The IGC have built up a name for stimulating safety, equity also solidity because of the scrupulous ideals it demonstrates, and its appeal for business organizations of principled conduct. The IGC monitors offshore sports gambling through upholding a special ten step standard procedure manual and also bills sports betting sites license fees for the use of the council’s logo. Frustrated clients may also report their conflicts to the IGC.
The Fidelity Trust Gaming Association has been set up in an effort to produce a standard which will raise the actions of machine-accessible sports gambling business concerns. The agency trust that by carrying on business exclusively with partners of honorable standing, they are able to forge an alliance of the fairest and most efficient overseas betting businesses multinationally. These are organizations that supervise the behavior practised by online sports gaming and which should hopefully function to mitigate a few of the uneasiness held by some gamers. Computer accessible sports gambling websites are consistently secure, since private details are no longer required and in addition the rewards not to mention the gaming odds are equivalent to a traditional Vegas-style wager. They cut down traveling time, but nevertheless maintain of a gambling casino, however nowadays you may game in your home.
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Posted by admin on February 4th, 2009 — Posted in Hall Of Science
Glaciers are dethawing at a quicker pace than at any point since recordings were started, reports The Express. Researchers from the International Glacier Monitoring Service, which follows 26 glaciers in 9 mountains, judge that from 1848 to 1969 glaciers were shrinking at a median rate of 27 cm a yr.. In between 1972 to 2000 the amount retreating increased to 60 to 95 centimeters per yr. From then the average has comprised more than one metre a yr. The last season recorded the highest recedings thus far of 1.1 m.
Worldwide glaciers are receding leastwise as swiftly as those glaciers in the representative sample with potentially fateful outcomes for nearby towns. In the short term there are likely to be a lot more deluges, and in the not so distant future, streams will disappear, leading to critical mains water deficits.
Chamonix, with its big no. of glaciers, the consequences of climate change and the retreating of glaciers will probably be keenly sensed. Possibly this is why a lot of shops, and locals appear to be more cognizant of these issues so are therefore seeking to take measures to restrain the energy consumption. Hopefully it is not too belated to stem the effects of global warming and secure a future for our children. Therefore think about how you travel when you go for your ski breaks in Chamonix.
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Posted by admin on February 4th, 2009 — Posted in Uncategorized
Thanks to the Internet, singles have more choices when it comes to dating that they can shake the proverbial stick at. And all those online dating choices are just waiting for singles with the online dating savvy to take advantage of them.
And you have that savvy. Don’t think so? Of course you do! You’re here, aren’t you? Now all you need are a few online dating strategies to get and keep you going. The mistake most singles make when using an online dating service is that they think that all they have to do is join a site, post a profile along with a picture, maybe, and PRESTO, their email box will fill up with all the dating offers they could ever want.
While this may be true for some lucky online dating singles, it isn’t true for most of us. We need to take care when writing our personals ads and profiles. Then we have to wait . . . and wait . . . and…
The waiting, though, is a good indication that we need to make adjustments in our profiles. Or maybe we need to switch to a different singles category. Getting your profile just right so that it gets noticed can take awhile, so don’t get discouraged. Just visit your profile weekly and make changes to it as needed until you start seeing results.
When your email box does start filling up with profiles of other singles, there are a few things you want to keep in mind for your online dating strategy.
• Don’t rush into anything. In other words, don’t take the first offer that comes along. There will be more, so be patient.
• Read the profiles thoroughly. Don’t always go for the fab face. Fab faces are, well, fab, but consider the close-to-fab faces too because they may have a lot more in common with you and just be nicer overall. So read those profiles!
• Forget obsessing. I know, that’s like telling a dog to forget his, er, bone. Still, getting fixated on one person will certainly cause you a lot of frustration and even hurt. Your mama always told you there is more than one fish in the sea, and she was right (Isn’t she always! Just don’t ever tell her so!). If one potential date doesn’t work out, look for oneor morewho will.
• Be wary of being too sexual in your wording. Lots of singles try to be sexually clever in their emails because they think it’s cute. Don’t make this mistake. Other singles will more likely think you’re a pervert or are just interested in one thing (and while this may be true and perfectly fine, most people want you to at least appear to be interested in them as people too, okay?). So use your words carefully.
• Take care not to give out too much personal information such as your address, home and/or work email address and phone number. Sad to say, but you can’t trust everybody, so be careful. Keep your personal information personal until you have met someone face to face, usually in a neutral location. Better safe than sorry (Mom was right again, darn it)!
• Always be honest. Sure, there’s a tendency among online singles to stretch the truth a bit, and it’s even expected. Telling outrageous lies, though, will get you busted when, and if, you ever actually get to meet the could-be date of your dreams. And that’s a good way to end a potentially great relationship before it even gets started!
Erick Shipmon is currently the President and CEO of www.eDatingPlanet.com Online Dating Service and Personals which is quickly becoming the hottest, most desirable singles community on the web. eDatingPlanet.com online dating services include: E-mail, Live Chat, Live Video, and FREE VoIP Broadband Long Distance
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Posted by admin on February 4th, 2009 — Posted in Accouterment
If you’re a busy professional businesswoman with a full figure then rejoice because there are some really good choices these days in plus size professional clothing. For a long time it seemed to be overlooked by the major designers, but now there are a lot of stores out there that are offering a wide range of clothing to suit the full figured professional lady. Of course, what you are looking for will depend on your job and your own unique tastes for style.
You already know that you need to dress in a way that is appropriate for your work. Just because a designer tells that something is suitable for the professional working businesswoman doesn’t necessarily mean that it will suit everyone. Most people would rather have muted colors at work because in most cases you can get frowned upon for dressing too flamboyant, but if you are in one of the creative professions then you may be expected to be a little less formal with your clothes.
The traditional plus size professional clothing is the dark trouser suit. Not everyone wants to look the same and even then there are still a lot of variations in that particular style that you can build on with it. The choice of color is usually the biggest differential. Naturally, the classic is black but you might also want to go with a dark blue or gray. In some cases many women like to incorporate pinstripes into the design as this can work very well for the larger figure and can have a slimming effect.
However, if you do not like to wear the same as everyone else then you might want to try something a bit different. There are some great skirts and tops around at the moment. After all, who says that you have to wear a suit? Just because you are wearing plus size professional clothing that does not mean that you need to be boring. As long as it is not too unusual there is no reason why you should have to wear a suit. Enjoy yourself by trying some combinations and see what works for you.
There is some great plus size professional clothing around at the moment and if you keep your eyes open then you can find a really good variety and if you put some thought into it you can get some really good ideas that will let you go to work looking smart and stylish in a way that will really make heads turn. There are some great styles and all you need is a bit of imagination to make them work for you.
Timothy Gorman is a successful Webmaster and publisher of FabulousPlusSizeClothing.com. He provides more information on plus size lingerie, dresses and and Donnavinci plus size clothing that you can research in your pajamas on his website.
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Posted by admin on February 2nd, 2009 — Posted in Accouterment
The Marc Jacobs handbag is a reflection of style and sophistication. Marc Jacobs has become one of the most popular and influential handbag designers in the fashion world. Marc’s ability to create an exceptional designer handbag has launched him into fashion’s fast lane making Marc Jacobs handbags a hot commodity.
Marc Jacobs seems to have the ability to know what type of handbag people will want before they know they want it. Thanks to this gift he possesses, Marc has become one of the world’s hottest and hippest handbag designers. You will become a part of the fashion haute couture when you sport your famous Marc Jacobs designer handbag, and all eyes will be on you! Isn’t this what every woman wants?!!
There are so many cutting edge designs in the Marc Jacobs designer handbag collection, so it may be difficult for you to settle on just one Marc handbag. But who says you have to settle on just one?! You can never have too many handbags in your closet! The different seasons also bring out new handbag styles, so you should always check in to see Marc Jacob’s latest creations. Having a few purses to rotate through each season is a good idea, but having a purse to match each outfit is an even better idea!!!
Being the owner of a Marc Jacobs bag you get the feeling of prestige and notoriety. Best of all though, is you get to sport one of the most fashionable designer handbags in the world!
Chris Rodriguez is the author/publisher for http://www.a-designer-handbag.com
Visit her sight to discover a wealth of information on your favorite brand name designer handbags such as Gucci, Coach, Prada, Chanel, and many more
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